Are you here – where you want to be, or are you on your way?

How to build calm habits that actually last

I’m saying Happy New Year again.
Not because the calendar tells me to – but because I’ve just celebrated my own new year. My birthday.
Year 47 is now officially underway.

This year, I celebrated with something I truly value: time spent with people I care about, breakfast in bed, and a pace that invites conversation. A pace where there’s time to talk and listen.

Because sometimes a new year isn’t about setting more goals.
It’s about asking an honest question:

Where am I right now?
Am I where I want to be?
Or am I on my way?

Being on your way is also a place to be

It’s easy to think in extremes – that we’re either ahead or behind. Successful or failing. There or not there at all.

But there’s a third place we often forget:
being on your way.

That’s where many of us actually are.
With ideas that spark curiosity. Visions that exist, but aren’t fully formed yet. A longing to contribute more of who we are – without always knowing exactly what the next step looks like.

That’s where I find myself right now. On my way. Exploring. Curious about where I place my time and energy – and what truly creates impact over time.

And perhaps that’s where you are too.

Habits, rhythm, and the courage to adjust along the way

I recently released a podcast episode number 38. It’s a milestone I set for myself last spring – 52 episodes in a year – and now I’m really close.

What’s made the biggest difference hasn’t been discipline in the traditional sense.
Without having made a grand promise or firm decision to do this – not just for myself, but for practically the whole world.
That I check in on this weekly.
Likewise, I have also actively done adjustments along the way

For the podcast to work, I had to revisit my weekly rhythm. How I work. When I create. When I rest. Episodes were first released on Sundays – now they’re released on Wednesdays.

And that’s an important reminder:
You’re allowed to update along the way.
You haven’t failed because you adjust.
You’re learning.

Keep that in mind as you look at your own habits.

Why we lose motivation – and why it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you

In January, there’s a day often referred to as “Quitters Day” – when many people abandon their New Year’s resolutions and slip back into old patterns.

We often interpret this as a personal failure.
But it’s rarely about a lack of willpower.

Creating a new habit takes time. More than a couple of weeks.
Research suggests it can take 60 repetitions or more before something begins to feel natural.

So fluctuations in motivation are completely normal.
The real question isn’t if they happen – but what catches you when they do..

Accountability partner – a support that makes a difference

One of the most effective ways to stick to new habits or goals is not to do it alone. Research shows that you are 95% more likely to succeed in achieving your goals if you have an accountability partner with whom you have regular check-ins.

An accountability partner might be:

• a friend
• a colleague
• or someone outside your everyday life who knows what you’re aiming for and follows up with care

As a coach, that’s the role I play for my clients. And it makes a real difference. When intention is combined with structure and relationship, things start to stick. They come to our sessions having checked in with themselves – not perfectly, but honestly.

It's the direction and the travel companionship during the way.

So - what do you want to build right now?

Take a moment to pause here. What is it that you want to create change around? What goals have you defined?

• Is it saying no to meetings without a clear purpose, to protect your time?
• Is it taking better care of your body?
• Is it writing, creating, or expressing something you’ve been carrying for a long time?

What is your habit – the one that would make the biggest difference if you actually stayed with it over time?

And:
Do you have someone who helps you stay on course when motivation wavers? Someone who encourages you and helps you maintain your focus.

Shall we have a coffee the upcoming weeks?

Sometimes it’s not more methods we need.
It’s companionship.

If you don’t have someone close who can support you right now – I can be that person.
Someone who walks alongside you and checks in with you – to help you keep a steady pace.

A coaching dialogue where you get:

• encouragement when things feel heavy
• reflections that help you return to direction
• small exercises that make the steps manageable
• support in building confidence, one step at a time

Because when you imagine that day when you’ve achieved what you’ve now decided on, what’s different? What is it that makes it truly worth getting there, becoming that person?

Would you like to know what that could mean for you? What it’s like to have me as your coach.
Someone to sit down with – regularly –
and keeping the course, even during the weeks that feel a bit harder.

You can read more about coaching here [Read more and book coaching] or Or you can book a call directly, and we’ll take it from there [Book a meeting]..

Would you rather do it entirely on your own? Here are a few resources to support you along the way.

Choose what matches where you are right now – not where you think you "should be".

Here & now

Below there are two podcast episodes that are useful at this stage. To get extra support, use the workbook: Clarity Workbook

This is where I want to be – this is who I want to be

To define your direction and do your vision more vivid and rich are something that I have a big passion for. There are many episodes around this subject. Here are some with different angels. To get extra support use the workbook: Clarity Workbook

On the way there

It is the road there that will make the difference if you will reach your goal. It is not always as simple as it looks. It is a lot of learning during the way. One step at a time will do that you will reach where you want. Below you'll find several episodes that will support your journey. To get additional support, go grab the workbook: Confidence Charger

---

Building something new is rarely about pushing harder.
More often, it’s about taking the next possible step – and then another.

Be confident – Be you.
And remember: The most important is to be on your way, not what pace you are keeping.

I’ll help you get started – book an introductory meeting and we’ll look at your specific needs.